Alex is 7 Months Old!!! (Part 1)

My baby is growing so quickly!  Last week he celebrated his seven-month birthday, and we made it a big one.  We had his church dedication on the day he was exactly seven months, which the number nerd in me absolutely loved!  My parents came up for the week since they hadn’t seen him since he was 4 months, and it was a very nice time.  My dad, a pastor, did the short dedication ceremony for us.  It was lovely.

Alex chewed on his shoe the whole time, which people got a big kick out of!

Alex chewed on his shoe the whole time, which people got a big kick out of!

For those of you not familiar with child dedications, they are analogous to a child baptism.  The reason our church does not baptize babies is that we believe baptism symbolizes a personal decision to follow God, one that a person needs to understand before they commit to.  A baby obviously cannot understand it yet, so instead we as parents commit ourselves to raising our children in a way that will communicate God’s love to them.  We acknowledge that our children are precious gifts from God, entrusted into our care, and promise to honor God in the way we parent them.  It’s sort of a way to humble ourselves as we realize that we are only human doing the best that we can and that we need the help of God and of our church community as we undergo the sacred task of shaping a young life.


We also took Alex to Sabbath School for the first time.  It’s like Sunday School.  We got there for just the last few minutes, but Alex LOVED it!


Look at how well he’s sitting in his chair, haha!  I thought that was cute.  We’re going to start taking him regularly, I hope, though it’s a long morning for him without a nap.


I took Alex up for the children’s story.  I think I managed to sit without flashing anyone with my skirt……  That’s his sweet little cousin sitting next to him.  Oh how she loves him!


After church, both sets of grandparents as well as Alex’s aunt, uncle, and cousins came to our house for lunch.  I had wanted to celebrate his half birthday even though it was a month late, so I did a little decorating and tried to make it fun and special for everyone.  I didn’t take the pictures myself, but should have because some of the details were missed (like my awesome half cake 😦 ).  Anyway, you can see my half green, half blue poufs.


Everyone’s place was marked by a picture of themselves with Alex.  I put the picture on the plate with a clear plate over it, and it was a hit.  Alex is all different ages in the pictures and for some people I couldn’t pick just one favorite, so there is a front and back.  I included a lot of “first time holding Alex” pictures.  Those always just melt my heart.


The napkin rings were held together by little hands and feet brads that I didn’t end up using when we did our pregnancy announcements.  My parents lovingly helped me put those together.  🙂


We did “big food” in honor of Alex since it has to be big for him to fist it and get it into his mouth.  It was fun.  Here Alex has just had a bite of cauliflower, which we’re not sure is his favorite (but he’s never refused to eat anything, so we can’t be sure!).


Our gift to Alex was his first Bible.  I remember having one just like this as a kid.  It has his name on it.  Again, no picture of that, but here it is in the box right after Alex ripped the ribbon off.  😀


No picture of the cake, sadly, but it was in a half moon shape.  It was apple cake, one of my favorites, and was frosted with a vegan buttercream frosting.  There was a little train candle on top.  Here’s what Alex looked like when he was finished smearing eating it:

P1020806After dinner Alex showed off some of his new skills while playing with his cousins.


silly guy!

silly guy!

I actually took a nap right after lunch because I was falling-over tired, so this is where the celebration ended for me!  Stay tuned for part 2 of Alex’s 7-month update!




Look at my husband's face.  I love this picture.

Look at my husband’s face. First moment seeing our son. I love this picture.

One of the best things about becoming a mother has been watching my husband become a father.  During those very first days in the hospital and at home after Alex was born, I was amazed at how naturally my husband took to fatherhood. I had known he would be a great father, but seeing it in action was indescribable. Suddenly we were united by our common love for this tiny human, a love that only we could match as his parents.   He changed diapers and bathed and rocked Alex to sleep like a pro.  He truly became superdad for awhile there as he took care of me AND our new baby while I went through a difficult recovery time.  I would not have survived that time without his expert assistance.  I have never been more thankful for him.


I couldn’t believe the emotion I saw in my husband after Alex was born.  No one can convince me that fathers who are intimately involved in the birth experience don’t have some kind of hormonal reaction similar to the one that mothers experience.  For days after our son was born, my husband couldn’t speak of either him or me without tears.  I hadn’t really seen him cry before, and was a little shocked at how emotional he got- but I loved it!  He was amazed at what I had done, amazed at the new little person we had made, and amazed by the birth process in general, I believe.  The birth was so rough for him because he went so so long without sleep and it was really tough for him to see me struggle in labor for so long.  He was amazing, though, and with me every single minute of it.  I have never loved him more.



My husband returned to work when Alex was about 3 weeks old, and he told me how difficult it was to leave in the morning.  He’d see Alex sleeping and he’d be so cute with his little arms thrown above his head that he didn’t want to go.  Sometimes I feel badly for my husband that he doesn’t get to spend as much time with Alex as I do.  I see every little change and every new thing that Alex does.  I also can stay very in tune with his needs, especially that ones that change on a day-to-day basis (i.e. today, bouncing helps him get to sleep; yesterday, it was walking).  When Alex was four months old we took a long road trip to Texas to visit my family.  It was horrible.  Not the whole trip, just the driving part.  Alex hated the car and had such a difficult time sleeping in his car seat.  That was back when he still needed to take a nap after being awake for just 90 minutes, so it was kind of a nightmare.  On they way down, my husband perfected a method for holding and bouncing Alex while standing outside the car to soothe him to sleep.  The first time he did it, the first time he was able to calm our screaming baby to a peaceful sleep, I saw the most wonderful look of pride on his face.  He was so thrilled that he’d been able to help his son get to sleep, and I realized that that was something he hadn’t been able to consistently do for awhile.  While going to work every day and only seeing Alex for a little while each evening, he lost something that he was then able to gain back once he spent more consecutive time with his son. Previously he’d seemed easily frustrated when the things that might have worked to get Alex to sleep before didn’t work anymore, but as soon as they spent more time together, my husband was able to connect better with Alex and had a wonderful sense of how he could help him.  That entire week and a half that we were gone, my husband was the nap guru and I actually felt kind of worried that I wouldn’t be able to get Alex to sleep without his help!  It was beautiful to see my husband’s confidence return and to see the connection between the two of them grow.


in Texas

Despite my husband’s love for our child, I know that fatherhood has been a big adjustment for him.  And he’s still adjusting.  But he’s figuring it out.  A few weeks ago he came home and told me he’d had a revelation: he’d been desperately trying to still make time for the things he loves to do, but what he actually needed to do was to realize that those days (of it just being us, and of having plenty of time for our hobbies) were gone and that now family activities are what he should focus on and enjoy.  He got all excited about the things he enjoys that we can also do with Alex, like hiking and biking (mountain biking is one of his greatest joys).  He bought a hiking carrier for Alex and was about to buy a bike trailer (but they recommend waiting until 1 year, so we’ll do that next summer, I guess).  We’ve started taking hikes with Alex a couple of times a week.  My husband loves both nature and getting exercise, so I know he feels better when we can do that stuff together.  He was really really happy after his “revelation”, and I realized that it made me feel happier as well, like him making peace with the way parenthood has changed our lives suddenly made me feel more at peace with it too.  I can tell that he still has ups and downs regarding the changes that come with being a father, much the same way that I sometimes feel very energetic, joyful and productive and other times feel tired, discouraged, and swamped.  I’m just thankful that I can recognize that it will take him time to sort everything out.


Today was my husband’s first Father’s Day.  I found the most precious card from a baby to a father (they are surprisingly difficult to find).  It made me tear up in the store when it said “and as soon as I’m able, I’ll tell you how much I love you” (or something adorable like that).  I didn’t know what else to do for him to make the day special, but it actually turned out very nice, I think.  He woke Alex this morning because he was still sleeping at 10am (!) and then went for a little walk around the neighborhood, just the two of them. When I woke up, we went on another walk as a family.  The sun was warm and the breeze was cool and it was so nice.  After Alex’s nap (during which his daddy got to watch a little baseball and research some mountain biking trails 🙂 ), we visited my husband’s parents, went to a plant nursery, and stopped by Lowe’s.  Back at home, my husband did some stuff in the yard, I planted my seedlings, and my husband gave Alex a bath and hung out with him while I did some housecleaning.  I know it might not sound like a fabulous day to all men, but my husband felt like he accomplished a lot, which always makes him feel great!  I wanted him to get a chance to go biking, but the trails were too wet so hopefully he can go another day this week.


I know that the job of a father isn’t easy.  They are under pressure to provide for and protect their families, plus support their wife in her new role as mother, plus try to stay connected with their children in the precious little time they get to spend with them each day.  Mothers have that special bond that’s forged by pregnancy and breastfeeding (and the extra time spent for those that are able to stay at home), and sometimes I feel it must be so easy for us to connect with our babies with those built-in bonding experiences, whereas fathers must create their own.  So, hats off to fathers on this Father’s Day, and especially to the father of my son!  You are a wonderful, loving, wise daddy, and Alex is so so blessed to have you!  I look forward to the years ahead where I can continue to watch you develop a special relationship with your son.  🙂

Breastfeeding in Public


This is me breastfeeding, but on my couch. Which is not in public.

Last weekend we took Alex on his maiden voyage to church.  We hadn’t meant to wait 9 weeks, but it somehow turned out  that way.  Everyone was kinda like “Where have you been all this time??” (along with, “He’s so big!- Are you ok??”), but I really felt like we chose the perfect time to re-enter that realm of our social lives.  Before last weekend, I always felt a huge amount of anxiety whenever I thought of taking him to church.  But this post isn’t about that.  It’s about breasfeeding- yay!  I’m a huge advocate of breastfeeding.  I always knew that I was for it, but during the last few years, and especially the time leading up to Alex’s birth, my research on the topic of breastfeeding just reinforced and strengthened my zeal for it.  It’s amazing, and it just makes me so happy that God provided such a perfect and beautiful way for women to feed our babies.  Anytime we try to intervene and come up with a plan that’s better than God’s, we just make things more messy and complicated (see: formula feeding).

Now, before I go any further, I would like to stop and say that we don’t live in a perfect world here and I understand that not every woman who wants to breastfeed is able to.  Most can, but some can’t.  I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.  If you wanted to breastfeed but couldn’t for some reason, I feel that the desire and the effort is all that matters in those cases.  I wouldn’t have anyone starve  their child.  Hey, even I had to use formula for a couple of days right after Alex was born (and it pretty much broke my heart, but I’ll talk about that in another post).  It was something I never ever ever thought I’d do, but it taught me that sometimes circumstances force us to do the less-than-ideal thing and I can’t pass judgement on anyone else’s situation.  We all have to make what we feel are the best choices for ourselves and our children, and I completely respect that.  Whew.  That disclaimer ended up being a little more lengthy than I had planned.  It’s just that I have been seeing recently a lot of women posting comments on pro-breastfeeding articles that they don’t want to be made to feel guilty or judged if they couldn’t breastfeed.  I don’t think in most cases that those articles were meant to evoke those feelings, but apparently the guilty factor is high against those who don’t/can’t breastfeed these days.

Moving on.

Church Saturday was my first time breastfeeding in “public” (or nursing in public, which has that fun acronym, NIPing!).  I was nervous about it, a little bit.  For most of our breastfeeding relationship, Alex and I have been so disorganized and messy that there was NO WAY I could attempt to get the job done discreetly.  When my family was here after his birth, they didn’t understand why I spent hours a day holed up in my room feeding the baby.  Why couldn’t I come downstairs and do it?  Well, because it was like this: I pretty much had to strip down to nakedness and use both hands (and I could have used more), and even then I would end up sweating and crying half the time.  Breastfeeding can be HARD!  Alex and I had a pretty rough start.  He had trouble latching, didn’t eat much the first few days, got dehydrated and jaundiced (that’s another post), we got thrush and mastitis…  Anyway, I quickly understood why women give up on breastfeeding.  I was frustrated and hurting, but determined.

Since those days, things have gotten soooo much easier.  I would say we still aren’t pros by any means.  In fact, every few days I have some new nursing worry or confusion.  We are definitely far from the place we started at, though.  Just the past few days, Alex has been able to latch on himself without assistance!  He still doesn’t open his mouth very wide, and his latch is probably not textbook, but it feels ok to me and he’s getting the milk out so HURRAH!

Ok, back to my story.  Alex slept in my arms all during the church service, and afterward I went to the cry room to nurse him.  There was one other nursing mother in there and a couple other ladies who quickly congregated to view the babies.  I was wearing a spaghetti strap tank over my nursing bra and a cardigan-type sweater over that.  I’ve been putting some thought into my nursing “system” for a few weeks now, and I have to say it worked really well!  I can just pull the strap of the tank down off my shoulder, unhook my nursing bra, and latch him on just like that.  And the sweater can cover me a bit if I feel I need it. The other mom was using a cover, but I didn’t think trying to latch Alex while fiddling with my blanket would work very well, so I just whipped it out and put him.  Ok, so there was really no whipping out of anything; I just wanted to use that phrase, haha!  .  As soon as any part of me was exposed, his head was totally in front of me covering everything, so it was pretty discreet.  My poor boobies, even with the awesome pregnancy and nursing expansion (woo hoo!) are still pretty small by most standards, so I may have an easier time than some.   While I was nursing without any kind of cover, a man we know walked into the cry room.  I didn’t feel uncomfortable because I knew that nothing was showing really, but I was afraid he would.  Thankfully, he didn’t seem to be fazed at all.

I know that some people though, especially men, DO feel uncomfortable when women nurse in front of them.  There are plenty of breastfeeding advocates out there who are quick to say that this is ridiculous, sexist, ignorant, biased, you name it.  I don’t feel quite that way.  I DO feel that women should have the right to nurse in public, and I’m really glad that we have laws that allow us to do so.  However, I think we need to be considerate of one another.  I think this is my policy: If I’m in a situation where the people around me aren’t really free to leave if they feel uncomfortable (in my home or another person’s home, for example, where it would be kinda awkward for them to just walk out), I’d like to be sensitive to the way people may feel and maybe throw a blanket over or go to a private location to nurse.  I believe that breasts were made primarily for nursing babies and that our culture has sexualized them to such an extent that now we have this problem.  I can’t tell someone their feelings are wrong, though.  I don’t know why people are bothered by seeing a woman breastfeed her baby.  Maybe for men it’s that they don’t know where to look and are afraid of seeing something they shouldn’t, or maybe they are now suddenly thinking about this woman’s breasts.  Of course, if women breastfeeding in public everywhere was very commonplace, I imagine that eventually those reasons would no longer exist.  You can’t say though that just because someone feels uncomfortable they are wrong for feeling that way.

My friend and her husband are coming to visit for the weekend, and I already know that the husband felt (to his surprise) uncomfortable when our other friend breastfed in his presence (and I believe she used a cover even).  So I may go nurse in the nursery while they are here.  We shall see.

Alex’s Birth Story

I’m so excited to finally be sharing Alex’s birth story!  He’s already nine weeks old, and I both can’t believe it’s been that long and can’t believe it’s only been that long.  Time definitely takes on another quality when you go into labor, and I’m convinced it doesn’t really return to normal afterward (probably because days and nights kind of merge together when you’re up every couple hours to nurse a newborn!).  I wanted to write and post this much sooner than now, but writing it felt overwhelming, probably because I was compelled to write down every detail.  It was also difficult to write because of my conflicting feelings in regards to the birth.

It’s super long (seriously long), but I’m not going to apologize.  I only mention it to warn you.  I wanted to write absolutely everything because this story is to make sure I don’t lose these memories.  I feel like they are seared into my brain, but I know my brain will eventually age (probably while I’m trying to keep up with a smart, energetic little boy) and they might grow hazy.

My birth experience with Alex was crazier than I ever could have imagined!  It was simultaneously everything I’d dreamed of and everything I’d feared.  Nothing, NOTHING could have prepared me for how it all turned out!

Note: Some of the pictures might be a little graphic, though I actually tried to use the least graphic ones.  Just a warning in case you’re squeamish or easily offended.  🙂


On Tuesday December 11 I decided to do some Christmas shopping.  Nothing crazy- just one store for a couple of hours.  We’d had our 39 week midwife visit the night before and discussed how we hoped our baby would be born when my family was here (they were supposed to all be here by the 19th, which was also the due date).  My midwife, Stacia, had joked that I probably shouldn’t go Christmas shopping for 10 hours or anything if I didn’t want to go into labor, but I thought only 2 hours should be safe.  The baby was very low and in a great position for birth, and our midwives both kept saying that they didn’t expect me to go much past my due date.  I had had a feeling for several months that the baby would be early, but thought it was probably just a paranoid reaction after being afraid of preterm labor when we thought my uterus might be bicornuate.

While in the store trying to find a sweater for my mom, I began to have some cramping that felt like menstrual cramps.  This had been happening on and off for a few weeks, but it seemed a little more intense this time.  I got a strong feeling that the baby was coming soon.  When I got into my car, the cramping stopped, but I still texted my mom that I felt like I was going to have a baby very soon and I got a little emotional on the drive home thinking about it.  We went to sushi with friends that night, per usual.  They asked me how I felt and I said I felt like I was about to have a baby. 🙂

Back at home that night, we decided to have sex.  We weren’t sure if we should since the last time we did (the previous Saturday morning), I’d had cramps all during church.  We knew that semen would soften my cervix and wanted to wait until our due date to have a lot of sex, but we figured a little beforehand would be fine…. Well, shortly after we’d done the deed, I began to have cramps again.  The baby was also kicking the crap out of my insides as the little dear liked to do each evening, so I got out of bed and came downstairs and made paper snowflakes (yes, that was the last “project” I did before giving birth, ha!).  After that, I read a birth blog where a woman had blogged several times during her labor, which was really cool and gave me the idea to blog while I was in labor too.  I finally crawled into bed around 1:30am, feeling really tired.

I was partially awake at 5:55am for some reason, enough to feel a “pop” from inside.  My first thought was: “I wonder if that was my water?  No, surely not!”  I thought about walking to the bathroom, but hesitated a few seconds, and that’s when I felt a gush of amniotic fluid.  And then another.  Good thing I’d put that shower curtain under my sheets!  I grabbed the towel I had stashed by the bed, shoved it between my legs, and waddled to the bathroom.  Water soaked the towel and went into the toilet.  There were flecks of pinkish white in it, but otherwise it was clear- good!  No meconium!  (I actually have a picture of what I saw in the toilet, but I decided to refrain from sharing, haha! You’re welcome.) I sat there for a moment, absorbing this turn of events.  I had never expected my water to break before contractions started, so I was surprised!  I also now knew that my family wouldn’t be present for the birth.  They were going to be so disappointed!  After giving myself a minute to adjust to what was happening, I crept back to our bed, still using the towel to absorb the periodic gushes of fluid.  I whispered “Dennis, my water broke.”  He struggled to escape a deep sleep, “Really??  Should I still go to work?”  he babbled.  “Uh… NO!”  Silly Dennis.  😛

I got back into bed and Dennis and I lay there holding each other for awhile, excited that this was finally happening but trying to remain calm.  For some reason I began to shake violently even though I didn’t feel cold or stressed.  I’m still not sure why it happened- maybe because of something in my amniotic fluid?  Contractions began almost right away as I lay there.  They felt a lot like the cramps I’d been having but had a definite beginning and end.  They were very mild, but I didn’t want Dennis to talk or move during them.  They started out 4 or 5 minutes apart and about 1 minute long and pretty much stayed that way all through early and active labor.  After about an hour, Dennis got up and called Stacia and Erin, our doula, to let them know what was going on.  I called my parents and sister and texted 3 of my friends to tell them it was go time!

We got out of bed and Dennis began to run around getting stuff ready.  The hose for the pool was still outside and frozen, so he had to thaw it out.  He also vacuumed (bless him!), something that always makes me feel better (clean floors- ah!).  I don’t remember exactly what I did- just some puttering around in my bathrobe and putting away clutter.  I found the pile of freshly-cut snowflakes from the night before and cleared them from the kitchen table.  I probably brushed my teeth.  I was so happy that we’d mostly gotten everything important done early.  I put on a big pad to catch the fluid that was still periodically gushing out.  I tried eating a little bit- some trail mix type stuff- but threw it up.  This was disappointing because I’d always planned to eat in early labor to keep my strength up.  😦  Stacia had told Dennis that since my water was broken I shouldn’t take any baths or get into the pool until active labor, but that I could take a shower.  I wanted to take one, but decided to wait until a little later (time morphed from there and I never took one).

From here on out I get a little fuzzy about times, but I do know that I wrote a blog around 9am, and I said that I was beginning to feel different even between contractions, kind of in a daze, and everything felt hazy.  Around 10am I was no longer able to text people.  I kept trying to figure out where in labor I might be based on how I was feeling and acting, though I didn’t want to assume I was farther along than I was.  When contractions first began, I felt completely normal unless I was actually having one, so I knew I was progressing past early labor when I began to feel so out of it all the time.  I was in the “labor land” that women always talk about!  Your body really does take you to another place when you’re in labor- a merciful place where time loses its meaning and pain is relative.  I made sure I let myself stay there and remain detached from everything else happening around me.


The entire time I was in labor, I felt the contractions mostly in my lower back/pelvis area.   The baby was not posterior, so I wasn’t having the dreaded “back labor”.  In retrospect, I think I was feeling my pelvic bones moving apart.  The contractions were definitely happening in front as well, but I really don’t remember feeling them there because the sensations in my back were way more intense.  It felt right to lean forward during each one, which is what I did for the whole labor.  I spent some time in the kitchen where a heating vent blew air onto my feet and felt really good.  I could lean forward there and rest my forearms on the counter and move my hips.  About this time I started having Dennis put some counter pressure on my lower back/pelvis- it felt so good!  For the rest of labor, I always wanted someone to give me counter pressure during contractions.

Sometime around noon I got incredibly sleepy.  I was glad I’d had a few hours of sleep the night before, but really really wished I’d gone to bed a little earlier!  I moved to the living room where I tried leaning on my birth ball covered in a towel.  After that I leaned on a big cushy chair and pretty much slept between contractions, which was totally crazy!  Dennis was in the kitchen making himself some lunch- something with leeks in it.  The smell of those cooking leeks filled the house.  It seemed like it was taking forever and I just kept thinking: when is he going to be done cooking those leeks so he can come push on my back?!  That seemed like the longest part of labor for me.


We weren’t sure when to call Stacia, Cynthia, and Erin to come over.  I wanted to labor alone with Dennis as long as possible.  Finally he called Stacia and she said she could come over just to check on the baby, and we said ok.  She arrived around 2:30 and ended up staying.  She sat with me during a few contractions and then told Dennis he might want to start filling up the pool.  I felt really excited when she said that because I figured it meant that I was in active labor or at least close.  I didn’t know for sure because I hadn’t had any internal checks yet, and I was ok with that.  Erin came around 3PM, I got into the pool around 3:30, and Cynthia, the assistant midwife, arrived shortly after.  The water felt so good!  I labored leaning on the side with my arms out of the water between contractions.  I think I was on my hands and knees a lot during contractions as well.   The temperature was sometimes perfect, sometimes too hot, and a couple times too chilly, but my birth team was great about adjusting the temperature when I asked them to.  We had a hose coming into the pool from the utility sink in our laundry room.


Whenever I had a contraction, my birth team would take turns providing counter pressure on my lower back/upper pelvis.  Between contractions, Erin got a bowl of cold water and put cool washcloths on my forehead, back, and neck.  That felt really good!  I was so warm and so absorbed in what I was doing that for the most part I didn’t want anyone to touch me.  That surprised me a little bit.  I just felt like I wanted to put absolutely all of my attention on what was happening inside my body.


The wee stocking I made 🙂

I hadn’t had any internal checks during my pregnancy or labor.  I hadn’t really wanted checks during labor because, if I wasn’t very dilated yet, I didn’t want to hear a disappointing number and feel discouraged.  I know that dilation doesn’t necessarily happen in a linear fashion, but in the midst of labor I might not remember that very rational thought and just think “Oh no, this is going to take forever- I can’t do it!”.  I could tell, though, that I was progressing just by the sounds I was making.  I’d begun to make sounds pretty early on, and the longer I was in labor the louder my sounds became.  I kept them low in tone, but I increased the volume and duration to match my contractions.  I remember at one point thinking, “Wow, I’m amazed that I’m able to make that loud of a sound for that long!”  I don’t think my contractions ever really got longer, except maybe at transition, but when they got more intense the period of time that I felt I needed to make a sound during one got longer, if that makes sense.  I was relieved that I didn’t feel too self-conscious to be vocal.  That was something I had worried about, along with whether or not I’d feel comfortable being naked in front of several people.  I needn’t have worried!  I had a bikini ready to wear in the pool, but when it came time to get in, I just threw my bathrobe out of the way and jumped right in; I didn’t care!

We videotaped some parts of the labor.  I haven't looked at it yet.

We videotaped some parts of the labor. I haven’t looked at it yet.

Dennis’ parents stopped by in the early evening with some food.  Stacia met them at the door and told them that it would be about an hour until Baby arrived!  I couldn’t believe that it was possible, but I was excited.  About this time as well, Stacia talked to us about whether my husband was going to be in or out of the pool to catch the baby.  She said she anticipated that there was still some time left before the birth, but she wanted to talk to us while I was still lucid.  I really didn’t feel very lucid at that point, but I figured she knew I’d be less lucid later on.  That was around 6:00 or 7:00pm.


Dennis was feeling really excited and was looking into my eyes and kissing me and telling me how happy he was that we were about to meet our baby and how well I was doing, how proud he was of me.  He was so emotional.  That’s one of my favorite parts of laboring in the pool, though at the time I was just so focused on the work that I still had to do that it was tough for me to join him in his pre-celebration.  Erin was also really happy and told me that this was just how she had imagined that labor would go for me.  I remember feeling really proud of myself for how I’d handled labor so far, but I just wanted to get to the end and THEN be really happy!  I had no idea what was still ahead (and neither did anyone else, apparently).


In most of the birth stories that I read in preparation for labor, I noticed a common theme in which each woman would reach a point, usually during transition, where she would doubt herself.  Sometimes those “I can’t do it” thoughts would only be in her head, but often she would vocalize them, usually to her husband.  A lot of women beg for the hospital or pain meds at this time.  I had warned my husband and family ahead of time that at some point I would probably say that it was too hard or that I couldn’t do it and that I just needed them to encourage me because I KNEW I COULD do it.  To my surprise, I never really reached the point where I felt that labor was impossible to handle.  I do think I know when I passed through transition, though, because I remember, after one particularly long and intense contraction, thinking “Wow, this is really intense!  I wonder how much more intense it’s going to get??”  There might have been a few contractions that were also closer together.


That must have been the most difficult part though because then I began to think about pushing.  I decided to try it a little on the next contraction, just to see how it felt.  It felt ok…  At that point, though, it was definitely just a thought, not an urge…. Until it WAS!  After a few contractions of “thinking” about pushing, I was definitely pushing and I Could. Not. Stop.  When they say that your body takes over and pushes and there is nothing you can do about it, they aren’t kidding!  I’ve heard it compared to vomiting and that’s a pretty apt description!  As long as I pushed, I felt ok.


After a few pushing contractions, Stacia told me that she could tell that the baby wasn’t moving down.  I still am amazed that she could tell so much from the outside.  She asked to check me and I agreed.  She found that I was about 9.5 centimeters dilated, but still had a cervical lip that I’d been pushing against and it was getting swollen.  She asked me to try NOT pushing for 3 contractions to see if it would move…..  WHAT??!!  Not push- are you KIDDING me??  I didn’t see how it was possible.  Erin explained to me, though, a way to breathe to keep myself from pushing.  It was a very very fast “hoo hoo hoo” sort of panting breathing.  So I tried it.  Man, not pushing was really rough, but I did the breathing and didn’t push.  I’d lose control a few times during each contraction and my body would push, but I’d just get things back under control and do the panting again.  Erin told me that’s exactly what I should be doing, so I felt really good about it.  Erin was so encouraging and supportive the entire time.  She was truly an emotional bolster, and I loved loved loved having her there!


After 3 contractions of the horrible not-pushing, Stacia checked me again.  The lip was still there.  She wanted to keep her hand inside during a contraction and try to push it out of the way, and I said ok.  I kind of floated on my back in the pool with Dennis holding me under the arms and Erin and Cynthia holding my legs.  Stacia kept apologizing for the unpleasantness of her hand inside me during a contraction, but the funny thing was that it really didn’t hurt at all.  If anything it felt better.  I still haven’t figured that one out….  In any case, it worked!  I was fully dilated!  Back to pushing, for real this time.  I think that was around 9:00 or 9:30?

At about 10:30, the baby still unfortunately had not moved down and Stacia suggested getting out of the pool to try other positions.  …….And this was the point at which my lovely straightforward home water birth turned into a very difficult complicated birth……….

I had to go to the bathroom anyway, so I tried pushing on the toilet for awhile.  Dennis sat in there in the dark with me, as did Erin for awhile.  Stacia came in periodically with a flashlight to check the progress.  There wasn’t much.  We didn’t know exactly why the baby wasn’t coming down.  Stacia said that when he did come out we’d probably see what had been the problem, a hand by the face or something like that.  Finally Stacia suggested that we go upstairs and have me try pushing in the McRobert’s position.  This is the only back-lying position she would ever recommend.  We had talked about it during our prenatal visits.  Basically, you lie there like a cockroach with your legs up and knees pulled back toward your head.  This position allows the birth canal to be open, but also lets you get some rest.  Stacia herself had given birth to both of her children in this position.


So we tried McRobert’s.  And we tried the birth stool.  And we tried the toilet again.  I was in the bathroom alone when I heard Stacia telling Dennis that they would have my try for a few more contractions and then begin talking about hospital transfer…  I felt so mad just hearing those words!!  At that point, I did NOT feel like giving up on my homebirth dream and I was DETERMINED to get that baby out right then and there!  When the next contraction came, I pushed and pushed and pushed for all I was worth and even tried to stretch my perineum with my fingers.  They came away bloody.  I didn’t know where they blood was coming from, and I didn’t care!  I just wanted to get the baby out, and my thoughts were no longer on the preservation of my body.  People, if willpower alone could have brought the baby into the world at that moment, it would have happened!  Unfortunately, it wasn’t enough.

I finally came out of the bathroom, feeling slightly defeated but still not ready to give up.  I was willing to do anything and everything that Stacia suggested.  I tried the McRobert’s position again, my birth team falling asleep between my contractions and then waking up to hold my legs while I pushed and pushed and pushed.  I remember kind of feeling badly for them.  It had been many hours at that point, and I knew they must be exhausted.  It’s odd that I was worried about them being exhausted, right?!  I remember Dennis on my left and Erin on my right, with Stacia and Cynthia down near the end of the bed.  Erin kept telling me how amazing I was, how strong I was.  She was really such a wonderful emotional support the entire time.  Dennis was trying to make sure I got some liquids in me between contractions.  I really had to pee, but hadn’t been able to for hours.  Finally Stacia put in a catheter just to drain my bladder.  I was pretty dehydrated at that point even though I was trying to take sips of water, tea, and an electrolyte drink whenever they were offered to me.

I pushed on hands and knees, I pushed leaning on the birthing ball, I pushed leaning on Dennis, I pushed in a full supported squat.  So many times everyone seemed really excited and told me they could see more of the baby’s head during a contraction- “We could see a lemon-sized portion of the head that time!  You are SO close! Push your baby out, Lydia!” –and I would keep trying to move the baby down.  I think they were really just trying to encourage me because Dennis told me later that it always looked about the same to him during those hours of pushing.

Yes, it had been hours and hours by now.  I remember looking at the clock and realizing that it was no longer December 12, but December 13.  My baby wouldn’t be born on 12-12-12.  Funny that this should be something to greatly disappoint me at that point, but somehow it made it all so much worse.

Finally Stacia began to talk to me about hospital transfer.  My birth plan had stated that I didn’t want any talk of transfer unless it was under the strong advisement of Stacia.  I knew that she had been thinking about it for awhile. I also knew that we had tried just about everything we could and that I was really exhausted and weak from not having eaten anything for almost 24 hours.  I had been keeping fluids down, but then I vomited during a contraction and lost what must have been everything in my stomach at that point.  It was time to get some help.  Stacia talked to us about what they would probably do at the hospital.  She said they would probably want to do an episiotomy and then assist the delivery with either vacuum or forceps.  She said she would do an episiotomy there in our home except she wasn’t sure that that was the only issue.  If the baby was stuck on bone and not just tissue (if he had an elbow up, for example, that was keeping him from coming through my pelvis), an episiotomy alone would not do the job.  The irony of actually asking my midwife for an episiotomy was not lost on me.  I remember her response to the episiotomy question when we first interviewed her: “Eckh!”

Once a transfer was decided on, everyone began to scurry around getting ready.  Stacia called ahead to the hospital to let them know we were coming, and Dennis began to gather the things we needed.  Of course I hadn’t packed a hospital bag, so they were asking me what I wanted to take.  It was difficult to think clearly about packing when I was still having regular pushing contractions.  I requested my bathrobe, the boy and girl blankets I’d made for the baby, and my chapstick (I believe I requested this several times to make sure I got it, haha!).  Cynthia was to stay behind and clean up while Stacia and Erin went to the hospital with us.  Erin sat by me on the bed with kindness in her eyes, and I remember just looking up at her and saying “I’m so disappointed.”  She said, “I know, this is hard.  But remember that it’s not over yet.”

I felt a little stunned that this was the thing that was making us transfer.  I had anticipated pain upon pushing, I had accepted the fact that I might tear upon crowning, and I had even come to terms with facing the famous “ring of fire”.  What I had never never imagined is that I would not even be able to move the baby far enough down to feel perineal pain or burning or to fully crown.  It was incredibly frustrating.  I’d been pushing all night and I just wanted to have my baby at home, but as we made transfer preparations that dream slipped away.  I’d been in labor for 24 hours.

I was a little concerned about the car ride- HOW was I supposed to sit in a car for 20 minutes with a baby’s head trying to come out of my vagina?!?  I mean, his head was right there, my perineum was bulging and swollen, and I could NOT sit without sitting on his head.  I walked out of our house wearing some mesh panties and a giant pad, my bathrobe, and snow boots.  It occurred to me that I must look ridiculous.  Oh, and I couldn’t really stand up and walk straight, thanks to aforementioned baby head.  Half walking, half leaning on Dennis, I made it to the car.  We had talked about me kneeling on the floor in front of the seat, but with the carseat in the back, there was no room to move my seat back (my car is kinda small), so I knelt backwards on the front seat leaning my torso on Dennis as he drove.  When a contraction started (I had 3 during the ride), I would grip the bars on the headrest of my seat and, bearing down with all my might, push and push and push.  I hated that I was still pushing!  If I couldn’t push the baby out without help I wanted to rest until we got the hospital, but I literally was powerless to stop.  The incredible birthing force would not relent in spite of my exhausted and spent body.  Each contraction, I could feel the baby’s head move down, and I actually reached down a few times to make sure it wasn’t all the way out!  I wondered how it would be to have the baby right there in the car!

Finally we pulled up in front of the hospital at about 6:30am.  Dennis told me he would let me out and then go park the car.  “HOW am I supposed to walk into that hospital??” I wondered, when out of the blue a man in scrubs appeared with a wheelchair.  I climbed onto it backwards just like I had been in the car, gripping the IV pole as he quickly wheeled me in the doors and into an elevator, where I had another massive contraction.  The unearthly roaring sound I made while I pushed echoed through the elevator and was released into the lobby when the doors opened.

The wheelchair-pusher stopped me in front of a desk, where they asked me to, yes, fill out some paperwork- ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?  I’m busy pushing out a baby here!  Right on cue, I had another contraction and my roars filled the waiting room.  The phrase “pushing in public” popped into my head, and I remember thinking that this was probably one of the things I’d laugh about later. J I almost laughed about it right then with Dennis and Erin when they appeared and, I think, took over the paperwork for me because I don’t remember doing much more than sign my name in the messiest way possible.

I guess they could tell that I was definitely having a baby because we got into a room very quickly.  The doctors and nurses began to poke and prod me, trying to figure out what the situation was, and they were not as gentle as Stacia had been.  They found out I hadn’t peed since Stacia catheterized me, so they catheterized me a second time to drain my bladder.  My pee was really concentrated.  I was really dehydrated, and so was the baby based on the way his heartbeat pattern looked on the monitor (his heartbeat was always good and strong during the entire labor, thankfully), so they gave me an IV.  They actually hoped that hydrating me would give my uterus some extra ooph to produce more powerful contractions and get the baby out.  I guess it didn’t work that way.

Shortly after we arrived, there was a shift change.  The new shift did everything the first shift had done all over again.  Poked and prodded.

The hospital staff was really nice, though.  They looked at our birth plan and tried to honor our requests as best as they could.  They saw that I wanted a dim environment with music, so they actually played music for me and dimmed the lights.  I count that as a kindness that I’ll never forget.  I guess there was one crabby nurse who seemed kinda mad that we homebirth transfer people had to come ruin her day, but I didn’t notice.  I did notice the one really nice nurse.

I felt so out of it during this time.  I literally was in such a dim hazy place that I felt like I wasn’t really there.  I rolled onto my side on the bed and fell asleep.  When a contraction came, I’d roll over onto my back again, throw off all my blankets, and call for someone to come hold my legs back.  Normally I would have wanted to be anywhere other than on my back, but I was too exhausted at that point not to be lying down.  I tried pushing on my side and they said it seemed to work well for me, but the hip pain after the contraction was excruciating.  I had hip pain in my sides after each pushing contraction, especially if I didn’t push until the contraction was completely passed (in hindsight maybe it was my pelvis expanding?), but while on my side it was much much worse.

During this time I threw up again when I stopped pushing before my contraction completely ended.  It was like if I didn’t direct the energy downward it had to go somewhere.

Finally the doctors on the second shift had examined me and determined that I need an episiotomy and forceps assistance.  I guess the baby’s head was too “stuck” for the vacuum.  I was ok with this.  The doctor mentioned something about the baby’s head being wedged behind my pubic bone, but that there was plenty of room posteriorly if they could just move the head in that direction.  Then they talked to me about pain medication.  At first I said no way, but they let me know that the main reason I needed it would be for the stitches I’d get afterward.  I talked it over with my birth team and the anesthesiologist and decided to get an epidural without the narcotic part.  I think.  That’s the best I understand it, anyway.  They wanted to go ahead and put the spinal in because that way if I needed a C-section they could just top me off instead of having to put me under general anesthesia.  I was so out of it that I had a tough time understanding exactly what I was and was not getting, but I did know that having a C-section while completely out would pretty much be worse worse case scenario.  I really never thought I was headed for a C-section, but if it ever did come to that, I definitely wanted to be awake for it!  I was concerned about the effect of the epidural upon the baby, but was reminded that the baby would hopefully not be in there for more than a few minutes after I got it.  Also, it’s not like an epidural was going to slow down my labor because I was already past that part.  I was taking medicine for what was basically a surgery, not for the natural labor process, and that’s the only thing that makes me feel better about having ANY drugs involved in the birth.

So then it was time to put the epidural in.  HOW in the world was I supposed to sit still while they did it if I had a contraction during the process??  I was really quite worried about this, but I obediently “sat” on the edge of the bed (I think a nurse was pretty much holding me up as I put the barest minimum of my butt on the bed.  Remember, there was still a baby head there.) as the anesthesiologist inserted the numbing stuff and then the needle.  Sure, it stung, but whatever.  I immediately felt a tingling warmth go through my legs.  It was nice to feel warm for the first time since we’d arrived at the hospital.  Right away I had another contraction, but only barely felt it and didn’t have the urge to push during it.  And that’s the last contraction I felt.


Getting ready to finally push out our baby!


Giving it everything I had…


Waiting for the next contraction…

I’m sure it was only a few minutes before everyone was assembled and ready for me to deliver my baby, but it was nice to relax for a few minutes and not push for the first time since the night before!  I was numbed from the waist down, but I could still feel things, if that makes sense.  It definitely took the edge off, but I still felt everything that was going on down below.  They told me that they were going to help with the forceps but that I needed to push as well.  “You’re still going to push your baby out,” the doctor said, and those are the words I remember most.  They made me feel that I still had some control over the delivery and took some of the sting out of needing assistance.  First, the doctor (a woman doctor, which makes me happy somehow) inserted the huge salad-tong-looking forceps (that hurt!) and then we waited for the next contraction, my feet in the dreaded stirrups.  A nurse with her hand on my tummy and an eye on the monitor had to tell me when one was coming (kind of a buzz-kill).  The first contraction came and I pushed and pushed with everyone cheering me on.  I definitely gave it my all, and Dennis later told me that the doctor was putting so much force on the forceps that her arms were shaking.  That kind of freaks me out, so I’m glad I didn’t notice at the time.  The next contraction came and I knew this was it.  I pushed and pushed and I kept pushing, not caring whether I was contracting or not.  This baby had to come out!  I know I had been putting my everything, my 100%, into pushing for the last 12 hours (YES, 12!), but I think I probably reached even deeper and put about 120% into those final pushes.  I heard someone say “The head! …now the shoulders….” And then, accompanied by the most amazing sensation, I pushed/they pulled my baby out… of my butt!   That’s what it felt like, anyway- like that baby had literally been in my butt this whole time!  As the doctor lifted my baby up and out, I  Could. Not. Believe. How big and long that baby was!!  And the head- it was HUGE!  “That was what I was trying to push out??” I thought.


Here’s where his head is coming out!!

And then I had my baby on my chest.  Well, on my tummy really, because the cord was kinda short.  The baby was screaming from the beginning and had a big beautiful pouting lower lip (that was the second thing I noticed, along with how heavy he felt).  It was a moment of shock and awe.  I heard someone say something about girl or boy and then it occurred to me to check.  I lifted him up to look and Dennis said, “It’s a boy!”  A boy!  We had a son!  And his name was Alexander.  He was bloody and slippery and crying and beautiful!


I knew he would have the coniest conehead ever, and he certainly didn’t disappoint! Funny how quickly it changes, though. Also, I’m SO glad Erin was snapping these pictures for us or I never would have seen the look on Dennis’ face!

We had asked the doctors to please wait until the cord stopped pulsing to cut it.  It seemed like only a couple of minutes when they told us it had stopped pulsing, but they were really patient and waited a few more minutes still until we gave them to go-ahead.  I know from looking at the time stamp on the pictures that it was cut about 15 minutes after his birth.  Dennis was given the honor of cutting the cord as we had requested in our birth plan.


They wanted to take Alex to the warming table to doing the Apgar and stuff.  I really kind of wish they had just left him on me, but I didn’t ask at that time.  Dennis was with him the whole time, though, and Alex recognized his voice and looked for him.

They pulled on my cord a bit to speed the delivery of the placenta, something I also didn’t want, but I’m not sure if they could wait because they were eager to get me stitched up.  I know that usually tears, at least minor ones, can wait until all that is finished, but I had a fourth-degree episiotomy.  For those of you fortunate enough to not know what that is, it’s basically the most extensive one they can do.  The cut went all the way from my vagina to my rectum, and extended through several layers of tissue. L  I thought they said that the stitching would take only 10 minutes, but they must have been talking about how long they’d have Alex over at the warming table because the stitching seemed to last FOREVER!  I don’t want to sound like a big baby, but it was really horrible!  I know I was numbed, but I still felt it really well!  It was a stinging/stabbing sensation over and over.  My feet were still in those stupid stirrups, and I was freezing cold.  I could stop shaking, and I couldn’t put a blanket over my legs to warm myself until they were finished.  Erin appeared by my head and reminded me to do my labor breathing- haha!  I thought it was funny that I had a tougher time with this than with labor, and I was glad I’d had the epidural to take the edge off at least.


Notice how pale I am. This is when things got kinda sketchy.

Somewhere around that time I began to feel kind of funny and my hearing suddenly went dim, like my ears had gotten plugged.  I said, “Um, my ears feel plugged up!” to whomever was listening.  The nurses looked at the monitors and went into a small flurry of action because my heart rate had gone up to about 120 and my blood pressure was extremely low- 60/30 or something like that.  I was losing a ton of blood.  They gave me pitocin through my IV and I stabilized.  My husband said it was pretty scary.  I lost about twice the normal amount of blood, which I guess makes sense because I had so many things happen that can contribute to abnormal blood loss: a long labor, forceps delivery, cord traction and episiotomy.  I think that letting the placenta deliver naturally and leaving Alex on my chest and maybe having him nurse right away would have helped.  They had told me to massage my breasts, but when the stitching began to hurt a lot I quit.  I should have kept it up, but oh well.


Finally, after what seemed like an eternity, Alex was back on my chest.  It bothered me for weeks that I had no idea how long he was away from me or how long it was before he got a chance to nurse, but I finally looked at the timestamps on the pictures and saw that it was only about 30 minutes.  That’s not too bad, I guess, and Dennis was with him that entire time, but it still felt like way too long.

When all the chaos finally subsided- when I was all stitched up, Alex was back with me, and I was finally able to cover up and get warm again- that’s when Dennis and I finally stood  there together looking at the peaceful sleeping face of our son- OUR SON!  And I finally cried, with joy.


Alexander Josip was born on Thursday, December 13, 2012 at 9:38 am.  He weighed 8 pounds, was 21 inches long, and had a 14 inch head!

What had caused the problems with delivery?  The best Stacia could tell, from watching the delivery and looking at the pattern of swelling on his head after he was out, was that he was asynclitic, meaning that his head, though facing the right direction and tucked well, was tilted a little to the side.  This meant that he was presenting a larger diameter of an already large head and I just couldn’t push it out that way without assistance.

During our two-day hospital stay and the weeks that have followed, I have had a lot of emotions to deal with concerning the way Alex’s birth ended.  I wish I could write that I am completely at peace with having to go to the hospital and that I don’t really care how he was born as long as he was healthy, but I have to be honest and say that I’m not at that place yet.  The birth story does matter, and it’s something that you cannot just forget or push aside.  I was SO confident that I would give birth at home and SO sure that everything would go well, that my disappointment was acute.  I’ll save more discussion of my feelings surrounding his birth for another time, though.

Nevertheless, I AM so happy for a healthy baby!  I always imagined that the only reason for transfer would be in case of an emergency, which to me would mean that something was wrong with my baby.  Praise God, he was fine the entire time, and for that I am so grateful.  It would have been so scary if something had been wrong with him.  As it was, I never felt afraid, it never felt like an emergency, and we were able to take our time and make our decisions thoughtfully.

I am also VERY thankful that Alex and I were able to experience a vaginal birth and reap all the associated benefits.  I really never ever thought that we were in danger of having a cesarean section, but it could have easily happened.  A few weeks later, when Stacia was doing a prenatal visit in our home, she was telling my family that they should have been there to see how amazing I was (that comment alone made me feel pretty good! :)).  She then told them that anyone else would have had a cesarean.  It was only because of all my hours and hours and hours of pushing that I was able to push Alex down far enough to have a vaginal birth.  I was pretty much floored when I heard this, and I had to struggle to keep from crying because hearing that made me feel like I had accomplished something during all of that pushing that I thought was fruitless.  I had fought for a vaginal birth and I had earned it for us!  That made me feel SO good!  🙂  As acute as my disappointment has been over losing the home birth I’d dreamed of, having to give up a vaginal birth as well would have been so much more difficult to come to terms with, so I thank God for that blessing!


After my first post-labor shower

Giving birth was simultaneously the most difficult thing I’ve done and the most wonderful time of my life!  I was on a birth high for days, and so was Dennis.  I felt like he and I bonded emotionally in a way that I’d never expected or even hoped for.  Sometimes I wish I could go back and experience it again because all the bad was more than worth the good.  We completely fell in love with our son during those first few emotionally charged days the three of us spent alone before family arrived, and we continue to do so now.  He has brought us an incredible amount of joy already, and we are so proud of our strong sweet boy as we see him grow up little by little each day. 🙂

Alex is Two Months Old!

Whaddya think?  Future heartbreaker?

Whaddya think? Future heartbreaker?

My baby boy is two months old as of yesterday!  I wish I’d done a special post for one month, mostly just to satisfy the OCD in me, but I think a month ago I was pretty much still in basic survival mode, haha!

Yesterday was a special day because I think Alex is finished with his eight week developmental leap fussiness!  I hope so, even though that would mean it coincided with his birthdate instead of his due date, which is not how it’s supposed to happen.  I think that’s the way it’s happening though as his five week leap went according to birthdate as well.  Maybe his due date was a little off?  I’m really not sure how that could be possible, but he did seem really ready when he was born, and I can’t imagine how my body could have ever thought to grow him any bigger than he was!  Anyway, if he is past his leap, that means that we made it through that!  I definitely began to notice a difference in him the past couple of days, a new awareness and growth.

Let me summarize the important stuff  for you and share a few of my favorite recent pictures.


This simple sling is easy to put on and puts Alex to sleep like magic. Unfortunately it also makes my back hurt. Grrr.

I love this picture.  Alex gets a bath from Daddy every night before bed.

I love this picture. Alex gets a bath from Daddy every night before bed.


A biggie, right?  Well, before the leap, Alex had his first couple of nights of sleeping 4-5 hours at a time.  During the leap we were back down to 2-2.5 hours.  The last couple of nights?  4-5 hours again!!  I’m so excited!  I unfortunately had trouble going to sleep last night (whaaaat??) so I didn’t fully reap the benefits, but I’m excited about the prospect of this continuing!  He still has a pretty late bedtime- 10:00 maybe?  It’s tough to  tell because we don’t exactly put him in bed until we go to bed also, but we try to pay attention to when he’s ready to start those long sleeps and call that the start of his night.  We try to have his bath done and his pj’s on before that time comes.  For now, Alex sleeps in our bed next to me.  I never planned to bedshare, but we all get the most sleep this way, and that’s what seems most important at this point.  I love sleeping with him, but I do look forward to be able to roll over during the night and pull my covers up around my head again.  I currently feel a little stiff and sore by morning….



I’ve definitely noticed a difference in Alex’s nursing lately.  For one, he’s more efficient.  He used to easily spend 45 minutes nursing.  Now it’s usually more like 20, and he can pretty much drain one breast in 5 minutes.  I like to still keep him on there for at least 10 minutes to make sure he gets plenty of hindmilk.  We seemed to have a bit of a problem with oversupply for a few weeks, so I’m extra conscious of that.  The frequency that he wants to nurse has decreased as well.  This decreased during his leap.  I still and always have nursed on demand, so I try not to worry about how many times a day he’s nursing, as long as he seems satisfied after every session.  I guess he is nursing between 6 and 10 times a day now.  He usually wakes once or twice during the night (between 10pm and 7am) to nurse.  Maybe 3 times.  Like I said, he just began to sleep longer again so I’m really not sure what it is!  Thirdly, Alex is beginning to be really distracted while he’s nursing.  Last night I actually had to toss a cover over his head so he’d concentrate enough to finish!  He wants to stare at the lights, the shadows on the ceiling, or my face (now that makes me melt!) all while gulping milk.  It’s ok with me except he kind of turns his head and tries to suck with the corner of his mouth which kinda hurts….  He still sometimes doesn’t have the best latch, but it’s getting better.  He’s lazy though, and will slide a bit and I’ll have to unlatch and relatch him.  Oh well.  And when the flow slows down he grunts and squeals and thrashes his head about like a little piglet.  Stinker!


Smiles like this are plentiful these days.


Alex doesn’t scream and cry during diaper changes anymore unless he’d rather be nursing or sleeping- yay! He actually has this one spot on the door or ceiling or something that tickles him so much he pretty much smiles at it every time. What are you looking at, little boy?


After diaper changes, I usually lay him in his crib for a few minutes while I clean up.  I wind up the musical giraffe and he likes to listen to that.  I usually quiets him if he’s crying, and it often brings a smile to his face.  The owl mobile I made him is his newest favorite thing, though.  He looooves it and will watch it  for as long as he’s in there.  If I spin it, he gets a huge grin on his face.  Yesterday I would say “Ready, set… GO!”  and then spin it!  He would jump with his whole body when it spun and then do a silent laugh- so adorable!  I came up today and spun it without warning and he jumped and then started crying- oops, I scared him.  😦




I’m watching for the new developmental changes from his eight week leap.  So far I’ve noticed that Alex can roll from his side onto his back or tummy (yesterday he was rolling on his back so he could keep looking at the owls 🙂 ), he loves to look at lights, faces, shadows from the architecture on the ceiling, and I think I saw him studying the trees out the window today when I was trying to get him to sleep.  Faces are his favorite, though, and he especially studies mine (which I love!).  He is putting his hands in his mouth a lot more, and sometimes when I put my hand near his face to let him suck my finger or to give him his duda (paci), he really uses his hands to pull my hand in.  It’s adorable.  I think the thing I’m looking forward to most right now is for him to discover his hands and to start trying to grab things with them!  Alex is doing well with supporting his head.  Every once in awhile he surprises us by how upright he can hold it, and he did a little push-up the other day off of his daddy’s chest.


in his big boy clothes


Grandparents= mucho excited
Alex= not sure


Alex is now 24 inches long and at least 12 pounds (probably a little more, but we haven’t had a really precise weighing in a few weeks).  His head is bigger around, and he’s filled out until people are beginning to refer to him as chubby.  I love this because of the nursing, weight loss, and dehydration issues we had in the beginning (I’ll blog all about that later).  He’s outgrown his newborn clothes by a long shot, fits into 0-3 month clothing and now actually fits his 3 month clothing so well that I wonder if he’ll still be able to wear them at 3 months??  😛

My beautiful boy

My beautiful boy

Alex brings so much joy to his daddy and me!  We love him so much, more every day, and LOVE watching him grow.  Don’t grow up too fast, Alex!  🙂

A Day in the Life- Eight Weeks Old pt. 2

Hi it’s me, Alex.  I’m going to tell you about what a day in my life is like.  Mommy did a pretty good job yesterday, but who could know about my day better than me?  Also, I was eight weeks old yesterday, not today.  Mommy got it wrong.  She said something about it being because she hasn’t slept since I was born or something like that, but it all sounded like a big excuse to me.

Anyway, here’s what I did today:

10:30pm (last night)-1:25am I fell asleep in bed next to Daddy and I guess Mommy moved me over by her after I was already asleep because when I woke up that’s where I was.  Mommy didn’t take a picture of this because it was really dark.  She looked really tired, but I didn’t care because I was super super hungry!

1:26am For some reason, Mommy decided to change my diaper instead of feeding me!  This made me really upset, so I screamed really loudly the whole time to try to let her know that I was HUNGRY!!

1:36am- 1:49 am I guess all the crying I did really worked because Mommy fed me!  It made me so happy and really sleepy too.

1:50am- 4:35am I slept beside Mommy this whole time.

4:37am-5:02am Yay, Mommy fed me right away this time!  I know she loves to change my diaper, though, so I made sure I did a nice big poopy while she was feeding me.  I thought it would give her something to look forward to for after I was done eating.

5:05am Mommy changed my diaper.  I hope she liked it.

5:58am-8:25am I’d been pretty tired after all the milk Mommy fed me, but the diaper change really woke me up, so it took me awhile to get to sleep.  Mommy held me, though, and I finally was able to sleep.

8:26am-8:57am I was REALLY hungry this time, so I drank a lot of Mommy’s milk, and from both sides, too.

When I was full, Mommy let me sit facing her and she sang some songs with me and took some pictures of me. I had a lot of fun.  Mommy smiled at me and I was really happy so I smiled back!  Mommy ate the plate of food Daddy had brought her before he went wherever he goes every day.  She said it was cold but still good.  I prefer milk myself.


9:27am I had made another nice poopy for Mommy, so she changed my diaper.  Then she took me back to the bed and said it was time for a nap.  She let me lay on the left side of her this time since Daddy wasn’t there.  After she held me and rocked me for a few minutes, I went to sleep.

10:10am-12pm I took my first nap of the day.  Mommy said she was really tired and slept too.  I think I actually woke up before she did, silly Mommy.

12:01pm-12:11pm When I woke up, I was feeling pretty happy at first, but then I got extremely hungry, so Mommy fed me.
After I ate, we did some talking and singing again, but Mommy kept saying stuff about my diaper.  She was afraid it was going to leak; I’m not sure why.
12:20pm  I made another big poo for Mommy.  I try to be a good boy like that.

After I had a clean diaper on, Mommy put me in the thing she calls a “crib” and said she had to “get ready for the day”.  She says this every morning, I’ve noticed.  That’s ok.  I like to lay in my crib and look at stuff.  There’s also this giraffe that plays music.  Mommy makes it sing after every diaper change, probably because she’s so happy about what I did.
12:35pm I got tired of being in my crib, so Mommy put me on this round circle on the floor.  There are some things hanging over my head when I lay on it, and I guess they’re interesting.  It’s a lot more fun when Mommy makes them do sounds.  I like to watch her face when they squeak and stuff.  I think she really enjoys it.  This time, though, she didn’t play with them very long.  I guess she was still getting “ready for the day”, so she gave me duda and left.

12:45pm Uh-oh!!  Mommy came in and said that my diaper was leaking onto the green circle!
She put another diaper on me and then I had to lay in the “crib” while she took the green thing apart.  I guess my diaper had leaked all the way through it onto the carpet and Mommy put her knee in it by accident.  It was really funny, but I tried hard not to laugh because Mommy didn’t.

Mommy had taken off my jammies when they got pee-peed on, so she put some daytime clothes on me.  There’s an elephant on my butt.  I guess I’m ok with that, but I’d rather have it where I can see it.  Maybe on Mommy’s clothes.


After all that, I was really really tired.  Thankfully, Mommy put me in the sling and bounced on the blue ball with me to help me go to sleep.

1:05pm-1:40pm I woke up, but I wasn’t in the sling anymore!  Mommy must have moved me to this other green place on the floor.  I hate it when she does that.
It was pretty comfy, though, so I just looked around for awhile after I woke up.  Because Mommy watches me while I nap, I get to sleep on my side and be covered with a fuzzy blanket. This is much better for me than on my back because I don’t spit up as much.  Every time I spit up, it wakes me up and then I have a hard time getting back to sleep.

Then I cried to let Mommy know I was hungry.  She was eating something strange on a plate.  She always eats the most bizarre things.  I don’t know why she would want to eat anything that’s not milk, especially when she has so much of it!

1:52pm-2:00pm I drank some of Mommy’s milk, but I only took 8 minutes.  I spit up a lot afterward and I cried because it hurt my throat 😦

Mommy put me in my bouncy chair while she finished eating that stuff on the plate, but I didn’t really want to be in there.  She put me in her lap, but I couldn’t see the skylights very well from there.  Finally she put me on the Boppy pillow and I carefully studied the skylights for several minutes… until I spit up again, which made me really upset.

2:30pm Mommy told me I must be tired (Hmmm, she might be right), and she took me to get my diaper changed before naptime.  After that she put me in this long green piece of stuff that she has to wrap around her first (I hate that it takes her so long to do this), and bounced me on the blue ball again.

3:00pm-4:29pm I slept in the green wrap thingy.  When I woke up I was pretty hungry again.

4:30pm-4:52pm Mommy fed me.  Yum!

5:08pm-5:12pm I guess Mommy thought I was done eating the first time.  Maybe it was because I kinda fell asleep…. Sometimes I can trick her this way.  She thinks I’m full, but…. I’M NOT!  It’s hilarious.  Anyway, I wanted to eat again a little bit, and THEN I fell asleep for real.

5:15pm-6:34pm I fell asleep on Mommy, and I guess then she moved me to that green thing on the floor.  I actually had a  pretty good sleep for awhile all snuggled up in my blanket.   I felt pretty happy when I woke up, and I smiled at Mommy while she changed my wet diaper.  Also, Daddy was home, which was AWESOME!  I really miss him when he’s gone all day.  Mommy told me he goes somewhere called “work”.  I guess it must be really fun if he goes every day.

6:34pm Did I say my diaper was wet?  It was wet AND poopy- YAY!!!

6:42pm-7:07pm After I said hi to Daddy for a minute, Mommy fed me again!  I wasn’t super super hungry, so it was a pretty relaxed meal.  Afterward, Daddy held me for a long time while I looked carefully at all the lights strung around the room.  Mommy says she’s going to take them down because they’re for Christmas (whatever that is), but I really hope she doesn’t because I looooooove to look at them!

7:45pm Daddy changed my diaper because I’d made a nice poopy for him, too!


8:05pm I fell asleep on Daddy with my duda in my mouth 🙂


10 minute nap- Fist Pump!!

8:15pm I’m awake again!  Did I sleep long?

8:20pm-8:39pm Mommy fed me 🙂


8:40pm-8:50pm I fell asleep on Mommy after she fed me, but when she handed me over to Daddy I woke up.  This room is so exciting at night with all the lights to look at!


8:58pm– I tried so hard to stay awake to look at the lights, but I got super sleepy and couldn’t keep my eyes open anymore.  I finally fell asleep and slept for a long time.  I think Daddy fell asleep too.  We both slept so long that when Mommy woke up Daddy it was already too late for my bath (I only know this because I heard them talking about it later when Mommy was nursing me.  I slept until 12:29am.).  I was kinda sad I didn’t have my bath.  When Daddy gives me a nice warm bath it’s one of my favorite parts of the day!  I love love love sitting in the warm water, and I like feeling clean.  I DON’T like how cold it feels when Daddy takes me out of my bath and moves me to my towel- Brrrr!   I always cry a lot so he knows I don’t like it.  If I only cry a little bit, though, he cheers and says “You did it!” so maybe I should try to be more brave about it.  It does feel nice and warm once I get to the towel and Daddy makes me all nice and dry and smiles and kisses me a lot. 🙂  I think Mommy and Daddy need to start doing my bath earlier though because after about 9pm I want to just eat and sleep and that’s it.


Well, that’s it.  That was my day.  It’s pretty hard work being me, I know, but I really like spending my days with Mommy and getting to see Daddy when he comes home from “work”.  I always know that when I need something Mommy and Daddy will try to figure out what it is.  They don’t always get it right, but at least they try!  They tell me they love me about  a million times a day and I get tons of kisses too.  Oh, and I get cuddles anytime I want, which are the best!  🙂


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